FAQ and rules for cuddle parties

FAQs
What is a cuddle party?
It is a playful way to deal with communication, boundaries and attraction or just to cuddle up and have a good time after a busy week.
It is a wonderful place to get to know yourself better, to relax, to share warmth and closeness, to recharge your batteries and your joy of life.
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You can become clearer about your own wishes and practice expressing them in a relaxed and confident way.
How do you want to be touched? How do you want to touch? What gives you joy and pleasure?
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You can learn to feel your limits better and to maintain them; practice to stand by them more confidently and thereby experience new self-confidence.
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You can improve your communication skills by practising expressing your wishes and limits clearly, without shame and directly. No frosting is necessary, you can put up with anything you want.
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You make the experience that your 'no' is respected and you do not have to explain or defend it. "No" is a complete sentence.
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You make the experience that getting a 'No' does not mean the end of the world and can become more courageous to ask for what you want more often.
If you don't ask, the answer is always 'no'.
Here you can practice risking a 'no' and probably get more 'yes' than ever before.
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You can have a lot of fun at a cuddle party.
Gerhard Schrabal has written a beautiful book about cuddle parties: www.kuschel-buch.de
What are the rules?
There's no cuddle pressure. You don't have to snuggle with someone you don't want to snuggle with. You don't have to cuddle at all.
You ask for permission and get a verbal 'yes' before you touch someone. Be as specific as possible in your request.
Say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no.
A maybe is a no.
You may change your mind at any time. Don't be ok with something, think it's good or don't.
Clothes stay on all the time!
Respect and honor the arrangements with your partner/lover.
If you have questions and worries or if you want support, ask the cuddle party leader.
Tears and laughter - everything is welcome.
Respect the privacy of other participants when you tell about the cuddle party.
PUNCTUALITY: Please arrive a few minutes earlier. We will start punctually with a welcome and orientation circle where we will get to know the rules, the structure and everyone else to create a safe environment for everyone.
What is special about the cuddle parties in the KuschelRaum?
There are rules. No one can sneak up on you and just grab you like that. At no single exercise, at no single second do you have to cuddle with someone or let someone touch you if you don't want to. Every touch is voluntary. The gut feeling decides and guides us from moment to moment, from encounter to encounter.
Everyone takes responsibility for himself.
Let yourself be enchanted by an atmosphere of security and warmth where you can touch, be touched, have fun and have a really good time.
What if I fall in love? Can I ask someone out?
Within these few hours of wanting to find a partner for life, a lot of the ease and relaxation that makes the cuddle party experience so wonderful can be taken away.
You are free to stay in contact with this person after the cuddle party.
Our advice is to deal openly with the felt attraction and not to hope quietly that the other person has experienced the same.
Often a magical cuddle encounter is just a magical cuddle encounter. Celebrate and enjoy it.
Will you come to my place? Can I rent a cuddle party?
Sure, no problem.
Send us an email and we'll develop the best concept for you.
Our Conscious Cuddle Party can be a wonderful birthday surprise, a very special teambuilding event or just that special something for your event.
What happens at a cuddle party?
After you arrive, you slip into the comfortable clothes you have brought with you and make yourself comfortable on the mats in the cuddling room.
We start with a welcome circle in which all participants introduce themselves by name and share how much cuddling experience they bring along.
The cuddly party leader then explains the simple rules and leads through a practice block where especially the respectful communication of clear boundaries and wishes is practiced.
The practice block varies from format to format as each Conscious Cuddle Experience has a different focus.
~ You ask and get a verbal 'yes' before you touch someone.
~ You don't have to cuddle with anyone you don't want to cuddle with.
~ Clothes stay on all the time
(Also read the next question: What are the rules?)
Bob Grader's book "The Cuddling Sutra" with 48 illustrated cuddling positions is available for inspiration.
Or be inspired by our photos.
https://www.kuschelraum.de/kuschelpositionen
What should I wear?
Make it easy for the others. (Holes in the socks or sweat stains are not inviting. Old t-shirts, even freshly washed ones, like to start smelling when you start sweating. Invest in a new one and get even more Jas to cuddle up with you :-)
Why should I be on time?
Arriving on time (preferably a few minutes before the start of the event) is important so that all participants are present when the welcome and orientation circle starts, where the rules and structure are presented. This way all participants will be on the same stand when the cuddling starts and will have got to know each other briefly. This creates security for everyone.
Do I have to cuddle everybody? What if I only want to cuddle a few selected people or only one person?
You can stay with a cuddle partner or change as often as you like. It's up to you.
What if nobody wants to cuddle with me?
You can always ask the cuddle party leader for support.
What if I'm turned on?
Our agreement is not to amplify or emphasize this feeling, but simply to let it go. And that is what happens. The wave is subsiding.
What if someone grabs you?
The allowed questions are "May I...?" or "Would you...?" This is followed by a verbal clear 'yes' or 'no' or the fine tuning of the touch offered.
For example, if someone asks you "May I touch your entire upper body?" you say "Yes" or "No," or express specific wishes and limitations: "Yes, you may, but only my back. "I would like to be caressed gently with my fingertips." If it's a no, there's no touching. It's easy. Sure. Sure.
And if the mistake happens often, please talk to the head of the cuddle party. We'll sort the situation out. If necessary, the person will be banned. Grabbing is not tolerated.
Do I have to cuddle with men as a man?
There has already been a lot of positive feedback regarding this topic: how good it feels and how relaxing it is to cuddle with your own gender group and also surprisingly easy. Beaming faces... .
Learn to share closeness also and especially with other men.
A nice feedback from one man was: "I discovered how beautiful men's bodies are and about how beautiful my own body is." Hallelujah!
Why should I pay to cuddle?
I do not live in Berlin, can I still go to cuddle parties?
You can get a good overview here: www.alle-kuschelpartys.de
Soon you will find providers of the Conscious Cuddle Experiences in other cities in our network.
I want to know more about cuddling, is that possible?
Or stop by Inspirations. You'll find many articles on the subject.
Disclaimer and personal responsibility
Neither the seminar leader (and assistant) nor the organisers accept any liability for any damage caused directly or indirectly by the application of the contents and the advice given and their interpretation. Each participant acts on his/her own responsibility.
In case of an indication, the seminar leaders (and assistants) and organizers appeal to the participants' and users' personal responsibility to consult a competent and appropriately trained physician, alternative practitioner or therapist.
I hereby undertake to inform the organizer whether I am under psychic or psychiatric treatment and/or I use psychotropic drugs (medication). In this case I will inform the organizer before the beginning of the event, the cuddle session, the workshop, the seminar or the training.
Furthermore I will report serious diseases of the musculoskeletal system and I will take care of my body on my own responsibility.
Personal responsibility:
The participants take full responsibility for their actions and decide for themselves if they want to participate (fully) in the exercises and demonstrations.
What is a cuddly high and a cuddly hangover?
The condition passes! It is not depression or a crisis of meaning, it is the cuddly hangover and it lasts 48 hours at most. Then the happiness hormones are in stock again and we can return to our 'normal state'.
Can I come with my partner or when I am in a relationship?

