Cuddle buddys by KuschelRaum
How to find your dream cuddling partner.
You are missing attentive platonic touch?
You long for loving and conscious exchange?
Kuschelbuddys by KuschelRaum could be your opportunity for this.
On facebook we have founded the private group Kuschelbuddys by KuschelRaum.
There you will find Cuddly Buddies.
There you will find people who are interested in physical contact at eye level - in mutual respect and mutual appreciation.
Just click here on the link and send an application for membership. (It's free.) After that you will be admitted and now you only have to put a YES under the rules and the manifesto and you can start.
Post yourself or simply ask other group members.
"Cuddling is a human right!" - Angeline
Rules and manifesto of the Kuschelbuddy-Group
Welcome to Cuddly Buddies.
If you want to be part of this group, please post a YES under this set of rules. This yes means:
"I have read and understood the rules. I agree with every single rule and will follow them. I am aware that I care for my own safety and am careful in dealing with the other participants.
I am only looking for one or more Cuddle Buddies here.
I agree that my name, my phone number and my address may be passed on for the Safecall".
This yes means safety for all members.
Rules of the group:
Decide for yourself which ones you want to apply for and in which way, and communicate changes verbally and openly with each other.
Everything is voluntary!
Nothing happens without content/approval/mutual agreement.
You stay in the cuddle energy and communicate openly about it when you have left it or want to do so. By leaving the cuddle energy (oxytocin instead of adrenalin = deep relaxation instead of excitement) you are no longer cuddle buddies and please officially end the cuddle encounter. You will be something different. At this point I only want to make you aware of it and make it a clear decision.
Furthermore, the following applies:
...each member is responsible for his or her own actions.
This is not a dating site. Leave aside hopes and wishes of this kind, so it will be more relaxed for everyone.
The cuddling happens without any return service. No commercial offers are posted or made.
How does it work:
You post your wish and your zip code. Then you just write to each other.
I recommend a phone call before the first meeting.
Furthermore I recommend a safecall at the first meetings, i.e. you give the address and phone number to a friend and then you have to call back with a certain sentence or word at a fixed time. If this call does not take place, your friend will take action as previously agreed.
Expect the best and make sure you are covered.
How to find the cuddle partner of your dreams?
With luck and patience! Start with writing messages, talking on the phone and slowly getting in touch with each other. Like every relationship, a cuddle relationship needs trust and respect. Very important: Respect your speed and your limits and respect those of your cuddle buddy. Anytime. All the time. Always. Unquestioningly. Without discussion. A No is a complete sentence. There is no need for explanations. (Wishes don't need to be explained either. They're just there.) What was coherent between you at the last session doesn't have to be coherent for the following one. "What do I really want to do at this moment? What signals do my body and my heart (not the head) send to me?
Slowness is the key. Cuddling is not about faster, higher, further. It is about connection and intimacy and these are things that grow. Things that want to be taken care of in order to grow. Things that take time.
Communicate: "I like this. Slow down please. Do you feel like...? It's too much right now." Do not start with "Can I lie on top of you?" Try back rubs instead or just holding hands, use eye contact. Take it slowly.
Don't overwhelm yourself. Don't blame yourself as in "Oh, boy, am I shallow. I just want to cuddle with attractive people." Then that's it for now. So what? The more people you cuddle, the more the selection criterion of attractiveness fades. As long as it's there, respect it. Even here: Your speed. If you feel an aversion/reverse to answering an inquiry right at the beginning, what should the cuddle encounter look like? If so, say "No, thank you" politely and do not force yourself into an encounter. The same goes for preferences à la "male/female only." That's fine and justified. Trust yourself. The more beautiful experiences you have, the braver and more curious you become. And when the time is right, you take the next step. It's very simple.
People with whom it clicks when it comes to touch and trust are a great gift. Take the time to find them, try them out, sort them out and celebrate them as soon as they are found.
Indulge yourself with oxytocin and bliss!
Angeline aka CuddlePimp